I think Feb 14 is one of the most controversial dates of the 365 days or 366 as the case may be. There are a lot of school of thoughts as regards the celebration of Valentine’s day; some people believe Feb 14 is over-hyped, some believe it’s the best day to show love, some believe it’s a great day for making a proposal to that special person, some even feel it should be a public holiday, some are indifferent about it, while some feel its carnal.
I have no objections to any school of thoughts, I believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion. For example no one is under compulsion to throw a birthday party but some people are of the opinion that birthdays should be celebrated. Different strokes for different folks I must say.
Personally I am of the opinion that if we can take out a day to celebrate children (Children’s day), mothers (Mother’s day), fathers (Father’s day), workers (Worker’s day), then setting a day apart to celebrate love does not make a person “more or less spiritual”.
A lot of times when we mention the word “love” our minds rush to the romantic meaning alone, however love is all encompassing. The true definition of love is God, and he has demonstrated that in various ways to us the greatest of which is sending his son (Jesus Christ) to die so we can have our place in destiny.
Love is stronger than death, Love covers a multitude of sins, Love never fails, there is no fear in love. 2 Timothy 1 vs 7 “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind”. The devil however knows how powerful the weapon of love is and that is why he tries in every possible way to fight against it. Unfortunately some individuals have allowed the devil to give them different definitions of love, one of which is LUST. When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable.
Here is what I believe the purpose of Valentine’s day should be;
FOR MARRIED COUPLES
Take out time that special day to proclaim some blessings into your marriage and your partner’s life. Let them know how special they are to you. Even the most ardent feminist likes to be swept off her feet with a little display of love.
Ladies please the gifts and treats shouldn’t be restricted to your husband, surprise him too (a surprise gift delivery at his office on feb 14 wouldn’t be a bad idea)
FOR INDIVIDUALS IN A RELATIONSHIP
This is a good time to evaluate your relationship and also take out time to appreciate one another. Some folks see it as a good time to propose, well I don’t have an issue with it especially if it’s something you’re sure God wants you to go ahead with and not spurred out of the euphoria of Feb 14.
YOU DON’T HAVE ANY BUSINESSHAVING SEX ON VALENTINE’S DAY (I had to put it in capital letters, that is how serious it is o!). Hebrew 13 vs 4 “Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge”.
One more thing; PLEASE DO NOT BORROW TO BUY AN EXPENSIVE GIFT, there will always be other opportunities to get better gifts so just buy something you can comfortably afford.
This is not the time to feel intimidated or sad because you are single. Go out with friends, have super fun. Get yourself a gift, you could even exchange gifts with friends. Who says you can’t buy yourself a cake (but don’t finish it alone o).
You could also make a contribution to an orphanage no matter how little. You won’t be single forever so don’t beat yourself up. Send BCs or text messages to all the special people in your life. Use their pictures as your BBM Display pictures, just make sure you enjoy every bit of the day. YOU ALSO DON’T HAVE ANY BUSINESS HAVING SEX ON FEB 14 (Yes I just said that).
We should all take time out to also show love to some people like widows, orphans, and also to others who are divorced or have given up on love due to some experience they have had. My prayers today is that the Lord will heal every broken heart and help them find love again. There is a spirit of love which is of God that enables people love beyond their power, I pray that this spirit rests upon every broken heart or marriage and cause a speedy restoration.
N/B: Experience, skill or sex cannot sustain love forever, there is a spirit of love that enables one to love unconditionally and this is the entitlement of every child of God. If you are not born again you have no access to this spirit. If you would like to give your life to Jesus or maybe you one did and somehow lost track you can say this prayer of faith;
“ Lord Jesus Christ, I come to you today. Forgive me my sins and wash me with your blood. I believe you died for me and on the third day you rose again that I might be justified. I accept you today as my Lord and Saviour. Now I believe I am born again and a child of God. Thank you Jesus for saving me and giving me a fresh start”
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Happy Valentine’s day and congratulations to a very sweet friend and also a pearl on her wedding (Eunice) this weekend, may God bless your marriage.