Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me…


In the beginning, right there in the garden of Eden, the devil has been fighting marriages. Have you ever wondered why He had to go through eve to make Adam eat the forbidden fruit? I believe He wanted to turn Adam’s heart against Eve thereby destroying the relationship between them.


Even Abraham and Sarah experienced a bit of this as the devil planted the seed of impatience in Sarah perhaps he thought Abraham’s relationship with his wife would end after finding out Ishmael was not the promise child but he has never succeeded and he won’t succeed in your home.

Do not be deceived, the devil is still fighting marriages. God however has promised to provide a way of escape. Isaiah 43 vs 2 “When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee

I want you to know that the enemy here is not one witch in your village neither is it your husband, the enemy here is the devil. He is doing everything possible to destroy your marriage, please do not give him that pleasure.

I can almost hear you say Stella, you don’t understand. My husband is not the man I used to know, I have done everything even to the point of sacrificing my career for the success of our marriage and see how he treats me. I can’t go on anymore. Apart from the spiritual implications, the emotional and psychological impacts of separation and divorce on the parties involved especially when children are involved cannot be over-emphasized.

The bible says in Proverbs 24 vs 3-4 “Through wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established”. Proverbs 14 vs 11 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. This implies that it is through wisdom that you can build that “dying” marriage again.

I read a book written by on “The power of a praying wife”, and I came across a very beautiful prayer and I trust God that after saying this prayer according to the leading of the Holyspirit there will be restoration of your marital destiny.


   “Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realise that I don’t have what it takes to be one without your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self controlled.

     Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving towards him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way you do.

    Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.

    Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Grow me into a creative and confident woman; make me the kind of woman he can be proud of to say is his wife.

    I lay all my expectations at your cross. Help me to accept my husband the way he is and not to change him. I realise in some ways he may never change but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only you, Lord, are perfect.

    Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage.

   Enable him to be the head of the home as you made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise.

    Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man you have given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me”.

N/B: If your relationship with God is not in place, every other relationship will be out of place.

If you are yet to give your life to Jesus or maybe you once did and somehow you lost track, here is another great opportunity to rededicate your life to him.

Just say this prayer of faith;

 “ Lord Jesus, I come to you today. Forgive me my sins and wash me with your blood. I believe you died for me and on the third day you rose again that I might be justified. I accept you today as my Lord and Saviour. Now I believe I am born again and a child of God. Thank you for saving me and giving me a fresh start”.

You are more than a conqueror, I believe you will win this one. You can send me an email on or follow me @uchestellz


I am privileged to be a follower of great men and women and I have come to discover that one of their greatest secrets is DILIGENCE. Diligence is simply persistent effort to complete an assignment. We can also refer to diligence as hardwork. Invariably the opposite of diligence is slothfulness or laziness.


    We are all entitled to 24 hours, but not everyone uses that productively. Some people may say “But I have no job, how am I supposed to be productive or hardworking if I don’t have anything to invest in”. The truth is if you are not diligent while you have enough time at your disposal, you might not be diligent when you have huge responsibilities.

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Diligence covers different areas of our lives; Career, Finance, Business, Marriage, Ministry, and even our walk with God as Christians.

There are diligent housewives and there are lazy housewives, so being a housewife is not the issue. There are diligent students and lazy students, diligent staff and lazy staff.

One of the greatest “Problems” of this century is lack of disclipline when it comes to technological trends. There is a lot of distraction everywhere. Have you ever wondered why you would rather enjoy going through gossip sites to find out which celeb is dating who, and who wore what to what occasion, but when it comes to searching for materials that will be beneficial to your destiny you find that boring?


Sweetheart life is a race, infact a race of individuality. How long do you want to be spoon fed? How long do you want to live on “Passed down revelations”? It takes diligence to “draw” from God’s word and it is our sole responsibility to do so.

I love the proverbs 31 Woman, every time I read that scripture I see something unique, something beyond the godly woman who just speaks in tongues to a responsible and hardworking woman. Some people say she is a career woman, others say she is a housewife, but is it not amazing how she applies so much diligence to all that she does.

So I will be doing a little something that will be of benefit to us (Women) using proverbs 31 as the anchor scripture.


  • Take care of your home; see that every day is well planned for before it comes. “She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple” (Verse 21-22)

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  • Let your hands be busy; either in developing cooking skills, reading, writing, or even a simple handiwork. It’s a very popular belief that where 2 or more women especially housewives are there must be gossip. That should not be said of us (Pearls)She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff” (Verse 19)
  • Be diligent with your finance. This not the time to spend money on extravagant things that might not be useful. I am amazed when I see women invest in the wrong things. Set your priorities right. Some women can afford to buy jewellery and hair of over 20,000 Naira but have never spent 2,000 Naira to buy a book. Let your man be able to trust you with finances. “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil” (Verse 11)


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  • Learn financial intelligence. If you cannot manage your finance while you are single, you might struggle when you get married. Managing here does not mean being stingy, rather it means accountability. We need to put some cravings to check. Please don’t be a slave to borrowing by buying what you cannot conveniently afford. “She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard” (Verse 16)


  • Learn to manage your time. Don’t stay up while you should be sleeping. I know how demanding work schedules can be, but try to practice waking up early, promptness, and time management.     Even though these days one can get tempted to want to live solely on fast food, thanks to noodles, we need to cautiously practice to make good meals even if it is on weekends. O=)⌣̊┈̥✽Beulah(4)                                                                                                                                              “She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens” (Verse 15)
  • Spiritual diligence. Practice staying up at night to pray and study the word of God.

As a single, practice going to church on time. I have heard people say “Why do I have to be in church before the opening prayer, am I the pastor”.

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  • Be diligent in your place of work. Learn to do the right thing at the right time even when it seems like no one is seeing or appreciating it. “Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men” (Proverbs 22 :29) . Try to come in on time, and if you have to sign in please put in the right time; Be responsible.VⅠCTR™

Finally it is important to note that there is a spirit of diligence, and it takes the grace of God to be diligent. “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure” (Philipians 2:13). I pray that you will receive the spirit and grace to be consistently diligence in Jesus name.

NB: Grace is only available to those who are born again. In case you are not born again yet, but ready to do so, or you want to re-dedicate your life to Jesus Christ please pray this prayer of faith now:

O God, I come to you today through Jesus Christ. I realise that I am a sinner and Jesus died for me on the cross. Forgive me my sins Lord, come into my heart Jesus and accept me as your child. I shall live for you from now on. Now I know that I am born again. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen”

Congrats! You are now born again.

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Exceeding Grace; Strange Works!
Happy New Year everyone, welcome to our season of supernatural and undeniable favours. I hope we all enjoyed the previous post on Strength (Health and Vitality).
I trust this next post will bless us too, happy reading.

Minister: Bishop David Abioye

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The subject of guidance is a subject of life. Our master guide in life is the Holyspirit. God does not trust us to handle our lives all by ourselves so he hands us over to the Holyspirit to guide us. The same way we receive Jesus as our Lord and Saviour is the same way we receive the Holyspirit as our guide.

     We need to be guided because “There is a way that seems right to a man, but the end thereof is destruction. In the journey of life, there are many things/people that look alike and we might think “This is it” but there’s always the right place & person as the case may be. God sees the future ahead of us, and that is the advantage we have over unbelievers.


Not all open doors are God’s doors. Not every opportunity is from God. We live in a crooked & wicked world where everything on the surface is shining but underneath it is rotten, and that is why we need divine guidance.

Divine guidance causes greatness, wherever God leads is where his grace follows. When God is involved, even time is closed up on your behalf.

Covenant positioning for divine guidance

In communication, there is a always a Transmitter and a Receiver. If there is something wrong with either the Transmitter or the Receiver, there will be a break in the communication process.

The Holyspirit is the transmitter; He consults with God to find out what is on His mind for us. We are the receivers. There is never a problem with the transmitter, rather the receiver has to position and reposition himself from time to time. If your stand is poor, there will be poor reception.

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Habbakuk 2 vs 1-2 “I will stand upon my watch, and set me upon the tower, and will watch to see what he will say unto me, and what I shall answer when I am reproved. And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it”.

How do I position myself?
1. You must be a Sheep (Born again)
New birth connects you. John 10 vs 27 “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me”.
Romans 8vs14 “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God”. We are seated with Christ in heavenly places, this implies that Jesus can whisper into our ears from time to time because of this position.

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2. Maintain a buoyant & vibrant spirit man
Build up your spirit man. Develop spiritual sensitivity to hear God more & clearly. Develop a deep and deeper walk with God. The quality of your heart determines the quality of your reception. Proverbs 20 vs 27 “The spirit of man is the candle of the LORD, searching all the inward parts of the belly”.

      There is a way prayer & the word of God destroys carnality and improves your spirituality. A genuine walk and relationship with God will help you hear him more.

3. Develop an attitude of humility
Never let your head be bigger than the hand of God Philipians 2 vs 5-7 “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men”

Divine guidance will sometimes “mess up” your reputation. You must learn to make yourself of no reputation. Psalm 25 vs 9 “The meek will he guide in judgment: and the meek will he teach his way”. Be level headed, be responsive to his corrections, instructions, and rebukes.

4. Practice quietness
1 Thess 4 vs 11 “And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you” . God speaks in a still small voice, so we need quietness to be able to access his gentle quiet voice.


    The night season and the early hours of the morning are usually the most quiet times. Psalm 16 vs 7 “I will bless the LORD, who hath given me counsel: my reins also instruct me in the night seasons.”

5. Develop the habit of worship and praise
We get connected in worship. Isaiah 30 vs 29-30 “Ye shall have a song, as in the night when a holy solemnity is kept; and gladness of heart, as when one goeth with a pipe to come into the mountain of the LORD, to the mighty One of Israel. And the LORD shall cause his glorious voice to be heard, and shall show the lighting down of his arm, with the indignation of his anger, and with the flame of a devouring fire, with scattering, and tempest, and hailstones.”

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NB: Only the Children are entitled to divine guidance. As many as received him, he gave power to become the sons of God.

If you are yet to give your life to Jesus or maybe you once did and somehow you lost track, here is another great opportunity to rededicate your life to him.
Just say this prayer of faith “ Lord Jesus, I come to you today. Forgive me my sins and wash me with your blood. I believe you died for me and on the third day you rose again that I might be justified. I accept you today as my Lord and Saviour. Now I believe I am born again and a child of God. Thank you for saving me and giving me a fresh start”

You can send me an email on or follow me @uchestellz