In the beginning, right there in the garden of Eden, the devil has been fighting marriages. Have you ever wondered why He had to go through eve to make Adam eat the forbidden fruit? I believe He wanted to turn Adam’s heart against Eve thereby destroying the relationship between them.
Even Abraham and Sarah experienced a bit of this as the devil planted the seed of impatience in Sarah perhaps he thought Abraham’s relationship with his wife would end after finding out Ishmael was not the promise child but he has never succeeded and he won’t succeed in your home.
Do not be deceived, the devil is still fighting marriages. God however has promised to provide a way of escape. Isaiah 43 vs 2 “When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee”
I want you to know that the enemy here is not one witch in your village neither is it your husband, the enemy here is the devil. He is doing everything possible to destroy your marriage, please do not give him that pleasure.
I can almost hear you say “Stella, you don’t understand. My husband is not the man I used to know, I have done everything even to the point of sacrificing my career for the success of our marriage and see how he treats me. I can’t go on anymore”. Apart from the spiritual implications, the emotional and psychological impacts of separation and divorce on the parties involved especially when children are involved cannot be over-emphasized.
The bible says in Proverbs 24 vs 3-4 “Through wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established”. Proverbs 14 vs 11 “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands”. This implies that it is through wisdom that you can build that “dying” marriage again.
I read a book written by on “The power of a praying wife”, and I came across a very beautiful prayer and I trust God that after saying this prayer according to the leading of the Holyspirit there will be restoration of your marital destiny.
“Lord, help me to be a good wife. I fully realise that I don’t have what it takes to be one without your help. Take my selfishness, impatience, and irritability and turn them into kindness, long suffering, and the willingness to bear all things. Take my old emotional habits, mindsets, automatic reactions, rude assumptions, and self-protective stance, and make me patient, kind, good, faithful, gentle, and self controlled.
Show me where there is sin in my heart, especially with regard to my husband. I confess the times I’ve been unloving, critical, angry, resentful, disrespectful, or unforgiving towards him. Help me to put aside any hurt, anger, or disappointment I feel and forgive him the way you do.
Make me a tool of reconciliation, peace, and healing in this marriage. Enable us to communicate well and rescue us from the threshold of separation where the realities of divorce begin.
Make me my husband’s helpmate, companion, champion, friend and support. Help me to create a peaceful, restful, safe place for him to come home to. Grow me into a creative and confident woman; make me the kind of woman he can be proud of to say is his wife.
I lay all my expectations at your cross. Help me to accept my husband the way he is and not to change him. I realise in some ways he may never change but at the same time, I release him to change in ways I never thought he could. I leave any changing that needs to be done in your hands, fully accepting that neither of us is perfect and never will be. Only you, Lord, are perfect.
Teach me how to pray for my husband and make my prayers a true language of love. Where love has died, create new love between us. Show me what unconditional love really is and how to communicate it in a way he can clearly perceive. Bring unity between us so that we can be in agreement about everything (Amos 3:3). Make us a team, not pursuing separate, competitive, or independent lives, but working together, overlooking each other’s faults and weaknesses for the greater good of the marriage.
Enable him to be the head of the home as you made him to be, and show me how to support and respect him as he rises to that place of leadership. Help me to understand his dreams and see things from his perspective. Reveal to me what he wants and needs and show me potential problems before they arise.
Make me a new person, Lord. Give me a fresh perspective, a positive outlook, and a renewed relationship with the man you have given me. Help me see him with new eyes, new appreciation, new love, new compassion, and new acceptance. Give my husband a new wife, and let it be me”.
N/B: If your relationship with God is not in place, every other relationship will be out of place.
If you are yet to give your life to Jesus or maybe you once did and somehow you lost track, here is another great opportunity to rededicate your life to him.
Just say this prayer of faith;
“ Lord Jesus, I come to you today. Forgive me my sins and wash me with your blood. I believe you died for me and on the third day you rose again that I might be justified. I accept you today as my Lord and Saviour. Now I believe I am born again and a child of God. Thank you for saving me and giving me a fresh start”.
You are more than a conqueror, I believe you will win this one. You can send me an email on email@example.com or follow me @uchestellz