It’s my Birthday!

Yay, It’s my birthday again *Dancing on a spot*.cake 2013

         It has been one unique year indeed, one of the most challenging years in my twenty something years of existence. A lot has happened in one year, I must say that I have had to make critical decisions in various aspects of my life this year. I met some really sweet people this year, I can’t mention everyone’s name but I am sure you know how special you are to me.

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I particularly want to appreciate someone super-special to me, I definitely wouldn’t have made it through all these years without him. I am not a good poet, but I just want to drop a few words to express how I feel.

“Giving my life to you is one of the greatest decisions I ever made.

I was just some young girl existing on planet earth, overwhelmed by inferiority complex but the moment you came into my life, I saw a woman I never knew existed.

Nights I felt so lonely, confused, and only tears could express how I felt, your arms were always there to wipe them away and cuddle me to sleep.

The more I know you, the more I want to know you.

It’s crazy how you love me even when I don’t love you like I should.
People sometimes see a “mess” when they look at me, but you see a “message”

In my little walk with you, I have learnt love, faith, and trust.

Thanks for giving me 6 adorable sisters, I pray you’ll continue to bless them for me.

Thank you for giving me great friends, who encourage, support, correct, pray with and for me, and who are never tired of my plenty drama.

Thanks for also giving me a man who is completely compatible with my purpose and who is not intimidated by my success.

Thank you for pearls, how far you have brought us and where you are taking us to.

Thank you for the corrections, I learnt you only chastise those you love so I see it as a rare privilege.

Though I have lost a few things, you are the reason I haven’t lost everything.

This year I ask that you help me know you more, live for others, use my gift to increase your kingdom, be a reason for someone not to give up, and most importantly fulfil destiny.

Without you I wouldn’t be here today.

I can confidently face tomorrow because I know you will always be by my side even if everyone else walks away.

I can make my boast in you because you will always defend your own.

My first love, my father, my friend, my comforter, my provider, my role model, words are not enough to describe you.

You make my life complete, no one else.


Thank you for one more year, I am confident this one will be greater and more glorious because the steps of the righteous shines brighter and brighter unto a perfect day. I believe that this new year holds a lot for me; increase on all sides, love, clarity, and exceeding grace above all.

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Looking back I think I have no regrets on the decisions I have made, some were painful, some made me feel really excited, I had to let go of some people not because they were not good enough to be in my life. I may not yet be where I want to be, but I am definitely not where I used to be.  Most importantly, I am grateful for the woman I see in the mirror everyday.


Recently I realised the Holyspirit has been trying to teach me something really important; Right words.  Yes, Right words! A lot of us quote Proverbs 18 vs 21 ” The tongue has the power of life and death” but only a few really understand what that means.IMG_1903

Words are seeds whether good or bad, some take days, weeks, months, and even years to grow. But the most important thing is “What type of seeds are you sowing?”. The words you speak to yourself and even to others, is it killing or giving them life? I guess you are in the best position to answer that. It is better to remain silent than to say things that could destroy your lives or even the relationships you have with others.

Not all the problems we are facing in our lives is caused by the devil or one enemy somewhere. Some of us have opened the door to the devil to operate through our words. Speak great words to yourself, even if it means you have to be your only fan. Do not say things like “I cant keep a relationship for long, he always leaves me for someone else in the end”.  Sweetheart, maybe that is just the reason why he keeps leaving you, you seem to keep sowing wrong seeds into your life.

A lot of us are fond of saying things like “My bosses never like me“, “I never pass an exam if I don’t like the course or the lecturer”, I could go on and on. Start saying the right things today, people might think it is pride but it really doesn’t matter what they think, in the end it is your life.


I have actually learnt how important my words are, and those who are close to me know that when I say something its really coming from my heart. We don’t necessarily have to wait for people’s birthdays or for something to happen to them before we can sow the right words into their lives. A simple  “God bless you“, “Have a fruitful week ahead”, “You are important to me”, can go a long way.

Personally,I am attracted to people who speak “graciously”, it actually goes beyond having a good diction. Colossians 4 vs 6 “Let your speech be with grace as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person”. It is important for us as christians to speak rightly,just because “everyone” uses some slangs or vulgar words does not make it right. Be different, stand out even if it means you will have to stand alone.


         The fact that a display picture has a bible or some bible verses inscribed on it does not make it spiritual, I particularly am not comfortable with those ones that have a picture of a man or woman not properly dressed or even with a tattoo. Yes, we are in the 21st century and in the age of social media craze but we need to calm down a little. You might be trying to send a good message but this could be misinterpreted. Do not allow your posts on social media lead anyone astray or cause them to sin, it should be the other way round. Let the words of your mouth draw people to Christ, always remember that your life might be the only Bible some people may ever read.

It is possible to live and speak right. Wives speak right words to your husbands, mothers speak right words to your children, husbands and fathers speak right words to your wives and children. It is normal to get angry, but I will admonish us to be careful what we say at that moment, because you could make the “best speech of your life” when you are angry. Sadly some of those words can never be taken back, we could lose the people we love forever afterwards and the worst part is we might never get a second chance to repair that which has been destroyed.

(_)Dr. Olori Bidemi...(1)

        I love this song by Hezekiah Walker; I won’t harm you with words from my mouth, I love you, I need you to survive.


Have  a blessed week darlings, watch this space for my birthday post. 28th November is still the date, and by the way I have started accepting gifts to avoid congestion *BIG SMILE*

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