In the beginning God created Man, then animals, after which he gave Adam a garden to tend. Then GOD said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion”. A helper is someone who is supposed to assist and support a leader or head. Invariably God created the Man to be the head and provider of the family, and the woman to support him. However, a situation where the Man of the house now becomes anything less than the head in terms of provision for the family can create a really big problem.
I have heard some of my male friends talk about how women get intoxicated with power once they start earning more than their husbands, and how they become disrespectful and sometimes start failing in their duties as a wife. I had to sample the opinions of male and female folks on the issue.
Tee Pearl: In my opinion, we women really don’t know how to handle power. That is why most women in power misbehave. This also applies in this situation where a woman earns more than her husband. It takes a lot of humility and submission to avoid misunderstandings, as we all know the Man likes to be in control so no matter how much money a woman earns, she has to remain humble and give her husband the respect he deserves.
MJ Pearl: Men are egoistic in nature and that makes them to naturally want to be in charge which I believe is very okay. If a woman earns more than her man, then she has to be careful so as not to give a wrong impression to the man or even onlookers because sometimes the man might not even care but his friends or family members would start drawing his attention to it. I believe the solution is extra submission and sincere humility from the part of the woman.
Nekylegy: I actually feel that Men are insecure and they let their insecurities blind them to the truth. The truth is most women in Nigerian homes are the breadwinners. Women love to ensure that all is well in their homes especially. There shouldn’t be a problem if a woman earns more than her man.
Seun: As a Man I don’t have a problem with it. But I don’t think the disparity should be much in order to protect the sanctity of the marriage. Though, it still behoves on the man to bear the responsibilities of the home, the wife too should support heavily! I think that’s how to manage it. So the point is Men should work really hard to forestall issues like this.
Kingsley: Personally I don’t have a problem with it, but when it begins to take her time so much that she is not able to cater for the family, and then starts giving excuses that she is going from one board meeting to another I might not take it lightly.
I could go on and on trying to get people’s view about this very controversial topic but I noticed that everyone kept talking about BALANCE, SUBMISSION, and HUMILITY. It is important for every woman to understand that no matter how much money or influence she has, submission is very key. Ephesians 5 vs 22-24 “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in EVERYTHING”.
Some people say the true test of a person’s character is seen when they have “too little” and when they have “too much”. Wives submit to your husbands, no man can lead a woman who cannot follow. Pride of life is a destiny destroyer and a home destroyer. If God places you in a greater position of power than your husband, see it as a privilege and not something you got with your strength after all it is God that gives the power to make wealth. Ensure there is balance and that your family is not at the losing end. Pray for your husband and continually speak blessings into his life. Stand by him in those trying times; never make him feel less than a man. Be his number 1 fan!
Dear Men, it is your responsibility to lead and provide for your family this is not to say that a woman should not help, we were created to be your help meets. No woman can follow a man who cannot lead! If your wife is in a higher position than you are, love her all the same and thank God for giving you such a great jewel of inestimable worth. Ephesians 5 vs 25 “Husbands love your wives; just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”. Do not see it as a competition, rather an opportunity to do more. Do the best you can, and I am sure God will bless the works of your hands.
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